A Remedy for the Relationship Rut

Between social isolation, working from home, and managing children and adolescents engaged in virtual learning, romantic relationships around the world continue to be tested by the pandemic. Many couples report losing patience with their partners, building resentment, or simply missing a sense of connection. It is normal for relationships to ebb and flow – it is important to have tools to turn to when you find yourself in a relationship funk.

1. Build compassion for your partner. Approaching disagreements with compassion and empathy help to dissolve resentment and bitterness. Next time your partner says or does something that rubs you the wrong way, ask yourself what outside factors may be at play. Maybe your partner is grappling with a demanding project at work, struggling with insecurities, or finding it difficult to express what is really on their mind.

2. Invest in your friendship. In these trying times it can be easy to put having fun with your partner low on your priority list. However, fostering a friendship is critical to staying connected. Designate time once a week where you enjoy your common interests together such as reading, hiking, cooking, or playing board games.

3. Express your gratitude. A partnership means sometimes sacrificing your expectations so that you may embrace your loved one for who they are in this moment. Instead of stewing over things your partner could be doing, show gratitude for what they have already done. Next time your partner is helpful by emptying the dishwasher, checking the mail, or allowing you to choose what movie to watch, take a moment to look them in the eye and say thank you. These small tokens of appreciation add up to build a stronger bond of care and respect.

Relationships require work. Committing to making small changes can keep your relationship a healthy one so that you may enjoy what makes yours unique.

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